Rocks in a Tin Can

5 Apr

I know I should be reading all my required reading for my doula certification with DONA.  However, I’m not in the mood to study.  I’ve had a few things tumbling through my head lately, like rocks in a tin can.   I’ve been thinking about the idea of writing a letter to my 20 year-old-self.  My older me giving advice to my younger me.  You get the idea.  And, if you do the same, post a link to your blog in a comment so we can commiserate our stupidity and greatness together. Okay, not to make too much of a fuss, here are a few things I would tell myself, in no particular order.

  • If you cannot give your unfiltered opinions to your closest friends without worry or offense, then they ought not to be your closest friends.
  • Never, I repeat never become a member of a church or ministry that requires you to sign a contract of submission. Just turn and run.
  • If it is common practice to keep staff uniformed, you are correct in assuming it’s shady business.
  • You are beautiful, own it.
  • Burn those button down shirts. Not cute. And no, your figure does not serve its purpose in men’s jeans.
  • One day, you will be so grateful that romantic interest(s) of yours never panned out.
  • Forced or coerced public repentance is spiritually abusive.
  • Finish school first.
  • Get healthy, it’s important.
  • Go ahead and explore controversial ideas, your faith will only become richer.
  • Stand up for yourself and set good boundaries.
  • It’s so okay to say, “NO.”
  • Your friend with the red hair, she’s a keeper.  The other one, with the crazy hair, you’ll be friends through thick and thin.  Your sister, she may drive you nuts, be she’ll be one of your best friends, so hang in there.
  • Trust your instincts.
  • Go on more dates, it wont kill you.
  • There is more to faith than brokenness.
  • His name is Peter, and it’ll be magical.
  • Your parents are really good people.
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5 Responses to “Rocks in a Tin Can”

  1. Nikki April 6, 2010 at 1:26 pm #

    You ARE brilliant. Working on a few messages of my own right now.

  2. Pam April 6, 2010 at 3:06 pm #

    Joy~
    Keep at it, Kid…that’s how your gift expands. I enjoy your writing very much, and also still miss you here.
    Love to the three of you,
    P.

  3. Des April 6, 2010 at 3:22 pm #

    Love it! I joined in http://www.belgexan.com/2010/04/hi-19-year-old-destiny.html

  4. Mommypotamus May 1, 2010 at 7:49 pm #

    So YOU were the one that started this! I so enjoyed reading Destiny’s awhile back and now yours, too!

  5. Michelle April 17, 2011 at 9:46 am #

    A little late to the game, but here nonetheless:

    A letter to 20 yr old Michelle

    * Become aware, wake up
    * Think more deeply and truthfully on what you really want to do in life, not what you think you should be doing
    * Dump the long distance, as you know in your heart you should
    * Stay good friends with Chris J, then follow your heart
    * Be more active in your family’s life
    * Whole Foods, get there sooner
    * It’s okay to get help for depression, it’s ok to be depressed, just don’t let it go on for so long
    * Dude. Forget about that first love. It’s not a healthy relationship and YOU KNOW IT
    * Practice responsibility and organization, have more discipline in this departmnet, you can do it and you will love it after the habit is formed

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